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toxic shame. How to heal the shame that enslaves you

by John Bradshaw

title: Toxic shame. How to heal the shame that enslaves you

translation: Helena Grzegolowska-Klarkowska

First Edition Publisher

Akuracik

Warsaw 1997

should have started a series of "Psychology every day" was from this book. Why? Therefore, John Bradshaw, in a simple and understandable introduced readers to the complexities of development and functioning of basic social unit, which is the family and the upbringing of children.

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Injury abandonment

Here I use the word "abandonment" in a sense much broader than is commonly accepted. Most often, when we say that someone has been "abandoned", we mean that it was "abandoned physically." Do not omit here this matter, but to be able to call the demons inherent in us, we have the current meaning of the words a bit extended.

So I would like to extend this deadline in order to cover the various forms of emotional abandonment, such as fondling a child deprivation, deprivation of his narcissistic needs, creating an illusory relationship, depriving the child of his natural ability to satisfy in terms of development zależnościowych needs, duped a child in a sick family system. I understand the concept of abandonment or any kind of violence against children.

Alice Miller, in his momentous book titled The Drama of the Gifted Child (Drama a successful child), describes a paradox - many good, caring, devoted parents abandon their children . Miller also describes a second, equally paradoxical fact: the driving force in the lives of many gifted people, with remarkable achievements and related many successes, is a deep, chronic depression, which lies at the source of shame. The reason for this shame, which is steeped in their true, authentic, I was abandoning a child. I mentioned this phenomenon before, calling it a "hole in the soul." Reading the work of Alice Miller greatly deepened my understanding of the trauma of abandonment. Although the concept of shame for Miller is not a key explanatory concept, it is easy to notice that in describing the loss of the authentic me and supporting this process, depression, describes the phenomenon of toxic shame, but in a different way.

person is left abandoned to itself. The reason abandonment may be either physical absence, and physical presence. Being abandoned by someone who is physically present leads to even deeper problems ...

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Author: Susan Forward, Donna Frazier

title: Toxic in-laws.

Free yourself from destructive relationships with toxic in-laws

translated Monika Betley

revised second edition

(First edition was published in Poland by Jacek Santorski & Co. Publisher)

Publishing House REBIS, Poznan 2007

entering into marriage, often we forget that we do not associate with only one person. We go to the family, which has some emotional baggage and established traditions. On problems with in-laws, and especially with teściowymi, circulates a lot of jokes. But unfortunately it happens, and it is often the Toxic in-laws is a really serious problem. The author describes the various types of them, she learns how to recognize them and how to effectively protect the compound against pernicious influences.

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Living in a triangle

Usually, when you reach the stage of a strong emotional involvement, you already know a lot about their partner and either you have already started meeting with his family, or at least know it from the stories: do you know about the saints, skandalistach, dictators and martyrs. Looking back with a dazzling brightness, which gives the look in hindsight, probably you remember when I first przeczułeś that await you trouble with the in-laws. In the case of some people, this signal is cold reception, or a kind of tension that seems inevitable. Another recall a snapshot of the past, for example, dryly exchange of views by telephone or derogative remarks. If unpleasant memories quickly disappears and is not fixed in memory as a stubbornly recurring theme, there is actually a greater danger. However, if you have a permanent memory of any particular moment or incident that portended trouble ahead, then it may happen that you start to play this memory in his mind like a movie.

In the case of Anne, trzydziestojednoletniej graphic artist, a warning sign was the reaction of the mother-in its decision on matters of personal and professional.

"Ruth took me to the goal, before Joe and I got married. She was angry that I am not going to change the name, even though it is on all of my folders in the phone book advertising. During the dinner," said Joe Engagement , loud enough to have heard a few people, including myself, that in its opinion, I'm too ambitious and therefore Joe will be my second place after a career which, of course, not at all worth doing. She said yes, though she also worked professionally. I did not say anything, but I felt humiliated and angry. So I tried to turn it into a joke, and alleviate the situation. It just was not the right time to argue. "

[...] Time has passed, and Anne could never find the" right time "to discuss the situation. When she came to me, four years after his marriage, still felt so just humiliated and furious, also blamed herself for having ignored the first warning signals and for not subdue Ruth behavior. Like most people burdened with toxic in-laws, from the very beginning, she felt that as a result of hostile in-laws in her marriage is more likely to suffer a failure, than to become a happy fusion of two families. The suppression of this idea triggers powerful forces that make us suffer in solitude. Love. You do not want to move any issues that might put a shadow on the romantic feeling that connects you with your partner. Would you like to come in-laws you liked and accepted.

Anne looks back amazed at how earnestly tried to convince myself that the rudeness we heard the dinner Engagement, was a momentary whim, as it turned out over the next year, it was the first of many temporary excesses.

" so much I wanted liked me, and I was sure that when we finally meet me, then so be it. But where there. When we got married, it was just worse. Then became convinced that lay the matter well when it is his grandmother. Today is the world's two grandchildren, and she still uses himself for me. "

Why do we allow so much time has elapsed from the moment when we realize that we have problems with in-laws, the moment when we cease to rely on the fact that they will disappear ...

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book series psychology every day

Author: Susan Forward

Title: Toxic Parents

translated: Richard Grażyński

second edition

Jacek Santorski & Co, Publishing Agency

Warsaw 2006

One of the biggest bestsellers of psychological

Susan Forward Patients are people beaten by their own parents. Physically or mentally. Criticized, harassed cruel jokes, burdened by guilt, sexually harassed or ... desperately protected. Few of them prior to treatment were aware that they were destroyed destructive impact of toxic parents, skillfully seed in the eternal child trauma, a sense of humiliation. Children of toxic parents, entering adulthood, have undermined self-esteem, leading in turn to self-destructive behavior. Always, even factual merit, they feel worthless, despite a loving partner - the unloved, despite the success in life - nonconformists. These feelings stem largely from the fact that as children are deprived of self-confidence and thrown into guilt. And becoming adults, they can not lose this weight, which is reflected in every aspect of their lives.

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"I do it for your own good"

[...] Many parents still believe that physical punishment is the only effective way of transferring moral principles and norms of behavior. Many of these lessons are carried out in the name of religion. Nothing works so far not been used to justify the beatings, but also so wrong as the Bible.

[...] Those parents who often believe in the innate tendency of children to evil. They believe that the harsh treatment will protect the child against corruption. Proclaim such sentences as: "I was raised with a rod of walnut, but from time to time I do not completely damaged," or "I need to arouse in him the fear of God" or "She needs to know who's boss" or "He must know what he is allowed, it will obey."

Some parents justify the beating, showing them as an indispensable part of the ritual, which must go through an experience that make your child a harder, braver and stronger. As it was he believed Joe

my father's mother died when he was fourteen his father. I never recovered from that did not. I still can not recover from his loss, and is no longer sixty-four years. Recently he told me that he was brutal for me because I wanted to develop resistance to pain. It was a sick thing, but he built a theory that if you do not feel you will not have to experience pain in life. With hand on heart, I believe he thought that it protects me from harm. He did not want that I survived the pain that he went through when his mother died.

hit, instead of putting Joe's harder and more resistant to injury, making him a timid and wary, much less well-equipped for life. It is absurd to believe that severe physical punishment can have any positive impact on the child.

In fact, studies show that physical discipline is not particularly effective as a punishment, even in the case of specific forms of undesirable behavior. A beat turned out to be only short-term remedy. It raises the children a strong feeling of rage, dreams of revenge and hatred against themselves. It is quite obvious that the mental, emotional and often physical harm caused by physical violence are completely incomparable to any temporary benefits.

from myself I can add only a brief summary. In the future children of the victims become torturers for their loved ones and for other people. Unconsciously design on other trauma, which became their participation.

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emotional blackmail

Author: Susan Forward (bestselling author of Toxic Parents ) and Donna Frazier

title: Emotional Blackmail. How to defend ourselves against manipulation and exploitation.

translated by Margaret Trzebiatowska

second edition in Polish

Gdansk Psychology Publishing

Gdańsk 2007

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[...] planned deal with his wife that for Christmas you choose to travel. We waited for this vacation for months. When I called my mother to tell her that finally bought the tickets, was close to tears. "But what about Christmas dinner?" - She asked. "We always get together at Christmas. If you go spoil it all that day. How can you do this to me?" What do you think of Christmas as I still have Christmas? ". Well, of course, gave up. My wife will kill me, but I could not enjoy the trip, enjoying the feeling of guilt towards the mother. (TOM)

went to tell the boss that you need help or arrangements a more realistic time frame for completion of the project. As soon as I mentioned, I can not give you advice, he began a speech: "I know you want to spend more time at home with his family. But I think that, although the lack of you, appreciate the rise, we want you to admit. We need someone to work in the group who is very devoted to his occupation - someone who I think is you. But as you want - you can spend more time with their children. Just remember that if it is important for you, we will have to reconsider your future in the company. "I felt completely devastated. Now I do not know what to do. (KIM)

What is blackmail Emotional?

emotional blackmail is a powerful form of manipulation, which consists in the fact that our loved ones threaten us - directly or indirectly - that will punish us if we do not do what you want. Underlying each of blackmail, lies a fundamental threat, which can be expressed in many ways, such as: If you do not behave as I want, then you suffer . Criminal szantażujący a person can threaten to use the information about her past and destroy her reputation. In general, demands money for secrecy. Emotional blackmail hits us personally. Speaking to the person knows how very precious to us is the relationship with her. He knows our weaknesses and deepest secrets. And even if it is it depends on us, when he fears that it has his way, uses his knowledge of us to formulate a threat to bring her what she wants: our submission.

Knowing that we need love and approval, our blackmailer threatens to deprive us of their, or their behavior confirms our belief that we have to earn it. For example, if you're proud of your generosity and thoughtfulness, the blackmailer may call you selfish and insensitive when he submits his will. If you value money and financial security, the blackmailer can provide them to you only under certain conditions, or threaten to deprive you of. And if you believe him, you get used to the treatment of its control of its decisions and their behavior.

found blackmail in the dance, dancing with the immense number of steps, figures and partners.

[...] Since it is extremely difficult to recognize the emotional blackmail when we have to do with him - and even long afterwards - have prepared a list that will help you determine whether you become a victim blackmailer.

When important people in your life:

• threaten to hinder your life if you do not do what they want?
• constantly threaten to disrupt you if you do not do what they want?
• tell you or suggest that they will neglect their duties, they do get injured or become depressed if you do not do what they want?
• always want more, regardless of how much you give them?
• usually assume that they ustąpisz?
• usually ignored or comercials deprecate your feelings and desires?
• lot of promise, but the fulfillment of these promises to make your behavior and rarely stick to them?
• showers approval by you, when they succumb to and disapproval when you do not want to be?
• use the money as a means to bring in his?

If you answered yes to even one of these questions, then you are emotionally blackmailed ...

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Toxic

book series, "Psychology in Everyday Life"

Author: Patricia Evans

Title: Toxic words. Verbal aggression in relationships

Edition

Jacek Santorski & Co.,

Publishing Agency, Warsaw 2008

This book is addressed to everyone. It just so happens that it contains examples, experiences and stories have been told to me by women. For this reason, the suffering associated with verbal aggression, I am writing from women's point of view, I hope that, without prejudice. To protect the privacy of the individuals who shared with me their experiences, changed their names and circumstances of the events recounted by them. Described by me, women are "the result" of my interviewers. It is women who are or were associated with verbal aggressive partners.

Verbal aggression is a form of violence that leaves no traces comparable with traces of physical violence. Why not be the same but the cause of suffering and a return to normalcy may take much longer. The victim of verbal aggression, lives in a world where everything is becoming increasingly complicated. A woman living with a man who is someone else "for show" and someone else privately. Small humiliation or outbursts of anger, coldness and indifference, or absolute domination, sarcastic remarks or silent distance, manipulation and extortion or unreasonable demands are the most common types of behavior. But they boil down to statements like "what is happening to you," "doing the molehill" and other numerous forms of displacement. Most woman who is a victim of verbal aggression suffer without witnesses, without anyone having , who could share their feelings. In the eyes of friends and families of violent partner may be seen as a really decent guy, and certainly for such a thought.

Although this book describes the experiences of women, there is no denying that some men are also victims of verbal aggression from their partners. But usually they do not feel such fear as a woman, living in constant fear of the wrath of man.

If you ever have experienced verbal aggression, surely you remember how in a more or less subtle way was given You understand that your feelings and perceptions of reality are incorrect. Consequently, subconsciously started to question the veracity of what doświadczałaś. I therefore suggest that you read about cases of verbal aggression, he thought to himself, if these situations do not seem familiar to you.

purpose of this book is to teach you to recognize subtle forms of verbal aggression and manipulation. My intention was to present the nuances of verbal intercourse with aggression in a way that they are usually the victims. People would rather forget the past, not revisited the painful experiences that have led to write such a book as this. We all want to forget our past issues. The past can teach us a lot, however, and gained knowledge in this way will make informed decisions that will ensure us a better future. Humiliation of one person humiliates us all.

Material for the book gave me interviews with 40 women - victims of verbal violence. Their age ranges from 21 to 66 years. The median duration of their relationship is slightly more than 16 years. In summary, we can say that borrowed from more than 640 years of experience verbal aggression. Most women I spoke with, moved away from their violent partners. Five, ten, fifteen years after parting still roztrząsały and tried to understand what happened to them. To save your relationship, have benefited from any direction, with each method: explained, turned a blind eye, asked, begged, went to group therapy or individual, try to be as independent and satisfying their own needs and not asking for "too much" agreeing on fewer and fewer, giving up any claim by showing understanding. But nothing helped. The dynamics of their relationship often still remained a mystery for them.

[...] Effects of verbal aggression are primarily qualitative. This means that, in contrast to the effects of physical violence are not visible to the naked eye. There is no evidence of beating, bruising, conquered the eyes or broken bones. The measure of harm suffered in this case the intensity of mental suffering endured by the victim of verbal aggression. Quality of experience So the victim determines the degree of violence.

My primary goal is to help you, Czytelniczko, recognizing the signs of verbal aggression. Because verbal aggression is associated with personal experiences, this book is entirely concerned with human experience.

reading it, you should keep in mind three important facts which allow to keep a broader perspective:

1. Therefore, based on an aggressive partner violence typically denies their aggression.
acts of verbal aggression
2. are usually place behind closed door.
3. Acts of physical violence are always preceded by verbal aggression.

from myself I might add that the verbal aggression often encounter in their everyday dealings with others. Most often it is not noticed, ignored, or even acceptable in some environments. We experience it in the home, in schools, we are confronted with it in the normal peer relationships, and often social and professional. We accept it without noticing how much suffering poses.

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