How two people can build a really close relationship, if they can not share their emotions and feelings? Yet they serve to communicate what is currently happening in our midst, not as a means to force anything on others.
we have been taught to suppress all emotions, but not taught to express them in a way that would bring a better understanding of themselves and others. We can not talk about your feelings from the "I" do not want to talk about the affirmation of in the belief that they are a sign of weakness.
Many of us can not be fun, because any show of emotions and feelings in the bud suppress even without knowing of it.
"I do not show what - and how - I feel he is in danger!" Think about where he came up with you this view? Think who enforces on you suppressing any expression of emotion, not only of joy or anger?
"Too much is that you do not enjoy, for a moment I'll give you a reason to cry!" Whose paragraph with mostly fell these or similar words? Who is destroying any sense of emotion and calling into question their legitimacy?
"Well, and what are you happy?" That's not reason to rejoice, because: not enough you tried ... could you do better ... you're too stupid to do it well ... " Before who had to hide or even to suppress any feelings, so as not to expose yourself to criticism, did not cause a violent rage, which hit at you?
We do not realize this, how many people live in our interior - father, mother, malignant older sibling, a teacher forever dissatisfied, envious colleague or friend. Their voices internalized model affects our personality, our behavior and decisions on union relations and human relations in general.
How many relationships falling apart, due to lack of ability to talk about their feelings or emotions when one of the two partners will explode after a while, like a volcano, once he "shed" by the ears of hearing about themselves humiliating or degrading opinion?
often not able to open up and talk about their emotions or feelings, together to find a compromise satisfying both sides. Your best bet is to scream in your face - it's your fault! Because we are firmly convinced of his own infallibility, and - as Pawlak with a grenade in his hand - defending his case like a wild animal. And sometimes it can drain from the tone and empathize with your partner? Only that very often we have to be stiff necks to bow my head, or too tightly hold on to the role of ruler, for a little while to get off the pedestal, which have won for themselves.
Reaching the repressed emotions and feelings begin to better understand each other and others. Change the view of many things that seemed so far we have not overcome. We start to control them and they are not us. Consciously express their feelings, which we derive, but they are no longer an automatic reaction, adapted by someone from our past. We begin to use them in the present, accepting responsibility for what comes from us. Being aware of their feelings and emotions do not deny them anymore and do not unwittingly give up their power.
suppression of emotion is to give them control over them. The more you're angry, the more the other person withdraws and closes itself.
When you say: "angry, because ..."," I am angry when ...", "arouses in me ..." , you affirm what you feel, what emotions are you excited at the moment, but I do not answer aggressive action against the person that created in you, but not others feelings. It is a pity that very often such statements are used to infuriate and provoke the fight to the play. How do u Pawlak - reason to be on my side!
we have been taught to suppress all emotions, but not taught to express them in a way that would bring a better understanding of themselves and others. We can not talk about your feelings from the "I" do not want to talk about the affirmation of in the belief that they are a sign of weakness.
Many of us can not be fun, because any show of emotions and feelings in the bud suppress even without knowing of it.
"I do not show what - and how - I feel he is in danger!" Think about where he came up with you this view? Think who enforces on you suppressing any expression of emotion, not only of joy or anger?
"Too much is that you do not enjoy, for a moment I'll give you a reason to cry!" Whose paragraph with mostly fell these or similar words? Who is destroying any sense of emotion and calling into question their legitimacy?
"Well, and what are you happy?" That's not reason to rejoice, because: not enough you tried ... could you do better ... you're too stupid to do it well ... " Before who had to hide or even to suppress any feelings, so as not to expose yourself to criticism, did not cause a violent rage, which hit at you?
We do not realize this, how many people live in our interior - father, mother, malignant older sibling, a teacher forever dissatisfied, envious colleague or friend. Their voices internalized model affects our personality, our behavior and decisions on union relations and human relations in general.
How many relationships falling apart, due to lack of ability to talk about their feelings or emotions when one of the two partners will explode after a while, like a volcano, once he "shed" by the ears of hearing about themselves humiliating or degrading opinion?
often not able to open up and talk about their emotions or feelings, together to find a compromise satisfying both sides. Your best bet is to scream in your face - it's your fault! Because we are firmly convinced of his own infallibility, and - as Pawlak with a grenade in his hand - defending his case like a wild animal. And sometimes it can drain from the tone and empathize with your partner? Only that very often we have to be stiff necks to bow my head, or too tightly hold on to the role of ruler, for a little while to get off the pedestal, which have won for themselves.
Reaching the repressed emotions and feelings begin to better understand each other and others. Change the view of many things that seemed so far we have not overcome. We start to control them and they are not us. Consciously express their feelings, which we derive, but they are no longer an automatic reaction, adapted by someone from our past. We begin to use them in the present, accepting responsibility for what comes from us. Being aware of their feelings and emotions do not deny them anymore and do not unwittingly give up their power.
suppression of emotion is to give them control over them. The more you're angry, the more the other person withdraws and closes itself.
When you say: "angry, because ..."," I am angry when ...", "arouses in me ..." , you affirm what you feel, what emotions are you excited at the moment, but I do not answer aggressive action against the person that created in you, but not others feelings. It is a pity that very often such statements are used to infuriate and provoke the fight to the play. How do u Pawlak - reason to be on my side!
0 comments:
Post a Comment